Don’t Let A Jealous Friend Ruin Your Wedding
When you receive good news, your friends are usually the first people you go to. You want and expect them to be happy for you. And, a good friend will be. Unfortunately, though, not every person you consider a pal has your best interests in mind.
Sadly, many people learn this tough lesson at a bad time: when they’re planning a wedding. Impending nuptials sometimes have a way of bringing out the worst in people. To help save you endless worry and frustration, know how to spot a jealous friend and what to do about it.
Wedding Envy Vs. Wedding Jealousy
First off, understand that not everyone who is envious of your big day is necessarily bad. There’s a big difference between people who wish they were getting married and people who want to sabotage your wedding.
Someone who is merely envious might say things like, “I’ll never get married,” or, “I wish I was you.” Usually, these individuals just need a little encouragement and some kindness. Jealous, ruinous people, on the other hand, might act happy for you, but then do everything they can to spoil your fun and steal your joy.
How to Spot A Jealous “Friend”
A truly jealous person is going to present a lot of negativity. They might shoot down all your ideas, cast doubt on your relationship, or even spread rumors and cause problems. Careful, though. They’re often sneaky about what they’re doing.
As such, keep a careful eye on members of your wedding party. Pay attention to how you feel when you’re around different people. If one friend consistently makes you feel bad or bummed, that could be a sign they’ve got a bad case of the green-eyed monster. Also, listen to trusted family members and confidantes. They’ll often give you subtle clues or even tell you outright if someone is posing a problem.
How to React
If you are faced with a jealous person, assess how important they are to you. If it’s a family member or someone really close, it may be worth talking to them about how they’re feeling. If it’s someone not-so-important, on the other hand, you might save yourself some grief by cutting them from the wedding party or limiting contact.
At the end of the day, people who truly love you will be in your corner. They’ll support your decisions and be happy for you. But, you do have to be on the lookout for those on the opposite end of the spectrum. That makes them easier to spot and deal with so that your big day doesn’t get ruined.
